Many relationships go through difficulties and can be one of the most common causes of unhappiness. You may find that your relationship is lacking something that it once had, or you are experiencing a lack of communication with your partner and arguments are becoming more frequent.
Very often arguments happen due to differing views on things such as money , kids , housework responsibilities and sex.
Stress at work can also impact at home if not dealt with. Keeping things from your partner rarely works, causing more anxiety and pain perhaps the very thing you wanted to protect them from in the first place by keeping things to yourself.
Perhaps there is a loss of sexual desire and intimacy, or you maybe feeling betrayed coming to terms with an affair or guilt due to having had one.
Problems can occur through long term illness or disability . Having the space to talk through these difficulties can help you in meeting each other's needs.
There are a number of reasons that people enter into relationship/couples counselling and together we can explore some of these difficulties in a safe environment in order for you to bring about change and develop the relationship you deserve.
Sexual Behaviors Which May Be Inappropriate or Harmful to Self or One’s Sexual Partner:
- Addiction to pornography or Internet or cybersex;
- Addiction to sex
- Compulsive sexual behaviour: excessive masturbation, multiple sex partners.
- Fetishism, cross-dressing, voyeurism, exhibitionism, BDSM that cause you or your partner to feel uncomfortable;
- Sexual fantasies with which one is uncomfortable, ones’ partner is uncomfortable or that are of an obsessive nature.
Sexually Traumatic Experiences:
- Problems due to incest, sexual and psychological abuse, rape, sexual harassment;
- Uncontrollable automatic reactions during sex: flashbacks, feelings of panic, dissociation or feeling of “leaving one’s body”, discomfort or disgust towards certain forms of touch or sexual acts;
- Difficulty in adapting and living with a diagnosis of HIV, herpes or with all other sexually transmitted infections (fear, shame, issues surrounding the search for new sexual partners and revealing one’s diagnosis).
Difficulties Related to Sexual Orientation or Gender Identity:
- Discomfort related to sexual orientation (lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgendered): uneasiness, confusion, shame, “coming out” issues, family conflicts.
There are a number of reasons that people enter into sex therapy/relationship/couples counselling. The aim is to provide a safe environment for you to begin to explore your difficulties, bring about change and develop the relationship you deserve.